A common trait of a codependent is that they sacrifice their own needs to try and meet the needs of others.
You don’t have to be an addict to suffer from co-dependency.
An addict and a non-addict in a codependent relationship is not unheard of. If undetected, it can devastate both persons. The root cause of co-dependency lies within the individual, not everyone else.
The co-dependents belief system states the opposite; they often think that they would be happy and everything would be fine if only everyone around them would behave “properly”.
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They are unable to see that they are powerless over others actions. Furthermore, co-dependency is often aimed at one particular individual. It is the codependent that suffers the most as time and time again their expectations are not met when they obsessively try to control others.
Co-dependency is a learned behavior which starts at an early age, such as caring for an ill or drug addicted relative. Sadly, one of its roots is sexual or physical abuse from a loved one.
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