How to heal from a broken heart
Breakups can be devastating and painful. They can interfere with sleep hours, appetite, and self-esteem. At first, accepting pain is the best way to forget the person who has broken your heart. Take the time to allow yourself to cry without judgment. Then do constructive activities that help you understand what happened and move on with your life.
There are specific steps you can take to help heal from a broken heart:
- Don’t judge yourself for feeling a certain way. Go ahead and cancel those thoughts. If you catch yourself judging, change those thoughts to positive ones. Say “You are a human being. It is not bad to feel that way ”. Letting those feelings flow without judgment is the key to releasing them.
- Express your feelings in the way you consider necessary. You will not be able to move forward and have a healthier and happier future without facing this pain. Do not try or put it off or deny that it is present. Let it affect you in the way you see fit: crying, sleeping, screaming or unloading with your friends.
- Practice meditation. Meditation techniques can help you accept your feelings. Try to sit quietly and focus on your breathing. Inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth. When thoughts and feelings reappear, do your best to name and accept them.
- Take care of yourself as a priority. Dealing with heartbreak can be physically, mentally, and emotionally draining, so take time to nurture your mind, body, and soul. Eat right, exercise, journal, get plenty of rest and maybe throw in a massage if possible. This includes putting aside or reducing nicotine (even vaping), drinking or taking drugs to ignore feelings.
- Open up to people you trust. Pulling back or pushing people away will only make getting through the breakup more difficult. Talk to people about what is happening to you and seek support, encouragement, or advice. Say “I have a hard time accepting that he left me. Can we talk?”.
- Consult with a counselor. If you have a hard time coming to terms with the breakup or are having trouble with anxiety or depression, a professional counselor can help you. The counselor can help you cope with your feelings and develop healthy ways to cope.
- Do a ritual of forgiveness. Write a letter detailing everything that happened or talk to an empty chair imagining that the person who hurt your heart is sitting there. Maybe the last thing you want to do is forgive him, but forgiveness is for you, not for him. Forgiveness will allow you to release pain so that you can open your heart to the possibilities of the future.
- Write in a gratitude journal. Write down some things at the end of each day that you are happy or grateful for. This is a powerful practice because it helps focus your thoughts on the positive things in life.
- Free yourself to move on by distancing yourself from him physically and mentally.
- Hang out with friends and family. Positive social connection will help you stay busy and boost your self-esteem. You will remember how many people really care about you and heal.
- Do exercises to improve your mood. Contribute to your mental and physical health by taking time to do physical activity. Regular exercises can also significantly lift your mood and help you fight depression or anxiety.
You can’t change the past, but you can learn from it. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, you can always change behaviors to prevent repeating mistakes, allow yourself to grow, and continue to develop self-love.