The challenge of being a woman, a mom and a worker
Today, men and women share positions of power and decision in companies.
We all care about development and prosperity. But that job progress also invisibly depends on our individual emotional realities. In fact, we are not as creative or lucid when we have worries at home. Now, there is a substantial difference between men and women.
Women live a permanent contradiction: on the one hand, we are designed to protect and feed our young, who are totally dependent on our care. And on the other, we are accessing territories historically reserved for men: autonomy and economic independence, thanks to our trades or whatever we have decided to “do.”
Being a mother is not a title that is acquired by studying a course in college, it is a recognition that is achieved with the energy of loving, guiding, caring, accompanying and protecting children with devotion. For this reason, I think that all women feel fulfilled when children come into our lives, although many times we are ‘caught’ in the middle of a professional job.
Being a mother is a fascinating experience. An exclusive privilege to our sex and a way of seeing life as well. This is not at any time fought with having dreams of a career, of life: wanting to travel, write a book, break records, go as far as none have come. What I want to convey is that the role of mother should not be limiting, nor should it pigeonhole us: it should liberate us, encourage us and improve us as people.
Being a woman, a mom and a worker is a daily challenge.
A few years ago, without really knowing how or in what way, I began an adventure that consisted of transforming the self, for the we. The beginning was sweet and sour at the same time, because the experience of docking was joined by the illusion of starting out and manning the ship.
After the pregnancy and the birth of my son, I was faced with the close models that most affected my life throughout my development. During this stage, I lived with ideas that did not belong to me and with others with which I did not agree, while many times I traveled a path of anguish and restlessness.
I was trying to articulate my role as a mother, which I had to access from my experience as a woman. Although, these roles, in principle, should not be antagonistic or complementary, due to the cultural heritage and the family processes experienced, it is not as easy as it is supposed.
More than half of households are headed by a woman.
This means that in one out of every three households the “mother” is also the main “provider” of the house, the “educator” of the children; besides being the “worker” in the companies and the “taxpayer” or “citizen” for the government and the institutions. However, it is important to highlight that being so many things also has a cost on the personal identity of women. That is, we don’t have much time left “or really wanting to be” us “, to find purpose in our life, to follow our goals and dreams. To simply” be “a woman.
Currently, there are other centers of interest beyond motherhood such as work and career development, studies or hobbies, and women are beginning to realize that, although the desired motherhood can make us happy, this is not always the same or the same for all.
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For this reason, these roles conflict and we are currently witnessing a change in the model of mother and woman, which has the added challenge of finding our own way of ‘being a mother and being a woman’ in these modern times, which has touched us to live.
How can this “integration” be accompanied from the workplace? At the very least, we should know at least which workers have young children. Create a good work environment. Encourage each other to visit us in homes. Because to give birth to children, women need to be seen, valued, recognized, accompanied and supported in this role, with sufficient financial and emotional support.