Being a Single Mom
Being a single mother is not easy, and neither is being a mother in a relationship. Children, to a greater or lesser extent, are demanding, they need constant attention and care that can sometimes be overwhelming. Because in general, that attention that children require is given them without regard, but with the addition that this means putting aside their own needs.
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The difficulty for a single mother is much greater, since she does not have the support of the other parent
And that help is necessary, even if all the efforts in the world are made and women become super moms, having the help and support of another person is very important. However, it is not necessary that this help comes exclusively from a partner, you can delegate it to family and friends, who will undoubtedly facilitate the task.
- Getting used to being frustrated or feeling tired all the time?
For most women, delegating childcare to others is terribly complicated
Perhaps because there is still the feeling that women should be able with motherhood and childcare, remnants of an old, obsolete and ineffective era. Asking for help is necessary, because life is not exclusively about raising children and you cannot dedicate all your time to that work.
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Don’t feel guilty if you ask your family, friends, or trusted people for help from time to time. Tannia V
Nor when you need that help to be able to do something personal, because that is also something that many mothers share. They tend to think that they can only leave children in the care of other people when force majeure occurs. However, having the help of other people to go to the hairdresser, the gym or for a walk alone, will help you to be a better mother because you will feel happier and more comfortable with yourself.
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We already ventured above, having help is necessary, it is an outlet and if you have the possibility, do not stop counting on it.
The people who offer to help you with your children, do so with all the good intention, if not, the most normal thing is that they did not. If they are people you trust, learn to practice emotional detachment and let your children learn to relate and trust other people.
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You are a mother, yes, you are also single (or not), but that does not make you a being without individuality and without needs. Work to get the best version of yourself, without pressure, but without abandoning yourself to the idea that you are now a mother and the rest can wait. Motherhood changes your life, it is a long process and to a greater or lesser extent complicated, but you should not let it absorb you, if you do not learn to adapt to it.
Mothers tend to devote all their care and protection to their children, often forgetting to take care of themselves.
If you do not take care of yourself, if you are not in good health (physical and emotional), you will not be able to give your children the best of you, because you will always be at 50 percent of your possibilities. Prioritize and plan, this way you can find those moments you need to fix your nails, get a massage, go shopping or have a coffee with someone else. Make sure they can listen and not just give advice.
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Because yes, you also have the right to meet other people and have relationships. As long as you do it in a responsible way, without involving your children in relationships that are not stable, so that they do not suffer with so many changes, you have the right and the obligation to satisfy your needs.
Regardless of what others think, your life belongs to you and being a single mother should not prevent you from enjoying it.
Tannia V.
