When a loved one suffering from addiction enters rehab, it often feels like the start of a long, uncertain journey—not just for them but for you as well. Emotions in early recovery like anxiety, sadness, relief, anger, and hope swirl all at once. For many in the U.S. who have a family member or loved one suffering from addiction, navigating these turbulent emotions can feel isolating, mainly when communication seems to dwindle after treatment starts. But rest assured, it’s normal not to hear much from someone in rehab, and understanding this process might be the first step toward healing.
When your loved one finally takes the brave step to get help for alcohol or substance use disorders, an array of feelings is likely to emerge.
Relief might mix with uncertainty, and you may even worry if your family member is doing well. According to the National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA), it is common for communication to slow down initially as the individual adjusts to the structure of treatment. This pause is often part of a controlled process that allows them to focus entirely on recovery.
Anticipating a supportive family call during outpatient addiction treatment
When you expect a call or message that doesn’t come, feelings of abandonment or guilt might surface. It’s crucial to remember that these painful emotions are a normal reaction to a deep, personal crisis. Addiction is a disease that not only affects the person suffering from it but also reverberates through the lives of those who care about them. As noted by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), the impact of addiction is systemic, often requiring a collective healing process.
Expecting less communication right after entering treatment can be challenging. Rehabilitation centers often structure programs to encourage internal reflection, focused therapy sessions, and peer support. The change and reduced communication mean that while you might not receive updates as frequently as before, your loved one is in an environment where healing comes first. Consider allowing the center’s team to set the communication pace to navigate this period. Trust that the treatment staff and discharge team, who have the training and the protocols, will inform you as appropriate. Trusting the rehab staff minimizes any added pressure on your loved one. It permits them the space they need to engage in their recovery truly.
When the silence becomes deafening, it can be beneficial to acknowledge your feelings rather than suppress them. Journaling, meditation, or speaking with a trusted friend can help manage the emotional intensity. Moreover, attending to your mental health is paramount. One therapist said, “Taking care of yourself is not just an act of self-love; it’s a necessary foundation for supporting someone else’s recovery.”
Support groups for recovering people and their loved ones can provide solace and insight during these difficult times.
Joining groups like Al-Anon or Nar-Anon can facilitate conversations with others who truly understand your experience. In addition, individual therapy or counseling is an effective way to process your emotions. Literature on the subject can also be enlightening; books like “Codependent No More” by Melody Beattie provide compassionate insights into the complex dynamics of addiction and recovery.
For early recovery, whether you are the one in treatment or supporting someone else, consider these tips:
• Allow the rehab team to set boundaries and pace for communication.
• Practice self-care techniques—try mindfulness, exercise, or engaging hobbies.
• Lean on supportive communities through groups or therapy.
• Educate yourself through trusted sources like research studies or literature on addiction recovery.
In summary, it is normal not to hear from a loved one in rehab immediately. While the pause in communication can be unsettling, it is a structured part of recovery. Recognize and honor your feelings, set realistic expectations for communication, and actively seek supportive resources to bolster your mental well-being. Recovery affects everyone around the individual, so taking care of yourself is not only healthy—it’s essential.
Remember, each step forward, no matter how small, is progress. As you navigate these challenges, know that leaning on professional guidance and community support is a decisive, commendable action in its own right.
By Jace A.
